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Featured as one of Summer 2018’s most anticipated reads by the Los Angeles Times, Vogue, Vulture, Entertainment Weekly, ELLE, Buzzfeed, and Bitch Media. In the style of New York Times bestsellers You Can’t Touch My Hair, Bad Feminist, and I’m Judging You, a timely collection of alternately hysterical and soul‑searching essays about what it is like to grow up as a creative, Featured as one of Summer 2018’s most anticipated reads by the Los Angeles Times, Vogue, Vulture, Entertainment Weekly, ELLE, Buzzfeed, and Bitch Media. In the style of New York Times bestsellers You Can’t Touch My Hair, Bad Feminist, and I’m Judging You, a timely collection of alternately hysterical and soul‑searching essays about what it is like to grow up as a creative, sensitive black man in a world that constantly tries to deride and diminish your humanity. It hasn’t been easy being Michael Arceneaux. Equality for LGBT people has come a long way and all, but voices of persons of color within the community are still often silenced, and being black in America is…well, have you watched the news? With the characteristic wit and candor that have made him one of today’s boldest writers on social issues, I Can’t Date Jesus is Michael Arceneaux’s impassioned, forthright, and refreshing look at minority life in today’s America. Leaving no bigoted or ignorant stone unturned, he describes his journey in learning to embrace his identity when the world told him to do the opposite. He eloquently writes about coming out to his mother; growing up in Houston, Texas; that time his father asked if he was “funny” while shaking his hand; his obstacles in embracing intimacy; and the persistent challenges of young people who feel marginalized and denied the chance to pursue their dreams. Perfect for fans of David Sedaris and Phoebe Robinson, I Can’t Date Jesus tells us—without apologies—what it’s like to be outspoken and brave in a divisive world.


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Featured as one of Summer 2018’s most anticipated reads by the Los Angeles Times, Vogue, Vulture, Entertainment Weekly, ELLE, Buzzfeed, and Bitch Media. In the style of New York Times bestsellers You Can’t Touch My Hair, Bad Feminist, and I’m Judging You, a timely collection of alternately hysterical and soul‑searching essays about what it is like to grow up as a creative, Featured as one of Summer 2018’s most anticipated reads by the Los Angeles Times, Vogue, Vulture, Entertainment Weekly, ELLE, Buzzfeed, and Bitch Media. In the style of New York Times bestsellers You Can’t Touch My Hair, Bad Feminist, and I’m Judging You, a timely collection of alternately hysterical and soul‑searching essays about what it is like to grow up as a creative, sensitive black man in a world that constantly tries to deride and diminish your humanity. It hasn’t been easy being Michael Arceneaux. Equality for LGBT people has come a long way and all, but voices of persons of color within the community are still often silenced, and being black in America is…well, have you watched the news? With the characteristic wit and candor that have made him one of today’s boldest writers on social issues, I Can’t Date Jesus is Michael Arceneaux’s impassioned, forthright, and refreshing look at minority life in today’s America. Leaving no bigoted or ignorant stone unturned, he describes his journey in learning to embrace his identity when the world told him to do the opposite. He eloquently writes about coming out to his mother; growing up in Houston, Texas; that time his father asked if he was “funny” while shaking his hand; his obstacles in embracing intimacy; and the persistent challenges of young people who feel marginalized and denied the chance to pursue their dreams. Perfect for fans of David Sedaris and Phoebe Robinson, I Can’t Date Jesus tells us—without apologies—what it’s like to be outspoken and brave in a divisive world.

30 review for I Can't Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I've Put My Faith in Beyoncé

  1. 5 out of 5

    Roxane

    There are stories that simply demand to be told and Michael Arceneaux’s is one such story. In I Can’t Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I’ve Put My Faith in Beyoncé, Arceneaux writes from his life as a black gay man with an uncanny strength of conviction and such fine wit. The essays collected here reveal Arceneaux at his finest, as he grapples with the very things that shape our lives--faith, family, and finding a way into the world he wants to be a part of. Whether he is w There are stories that simply demand to be told and Michael Arceneaux’s is one such story. In I Can’t Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I’ve Put My Faith in Beyoncé, Arceneaux writes from his life as a black gay man with an uncanny strength of conviction and such fine wit. The essays collected here reveal Arceneaux at his finest, as he grapples with the very things that shape our lives--faith, family, and finding a way into the world he wants to be a part of. Whether he is writing about coming to terms with his father’s rage or his complicated relationship to Christianity or his trepidations about dating and finding human connection, Arceneaux makes keen observations and sculpts beauty from the ugly things a lesser writer would shy away from. This is not a perfect book--there are some odd structure choices in a few of the essays and a bit too much unnecessary detail in others, but the critical thinking, from beginning to end, is outstanding. I Can’t Date Jesus is a must-read collection from a rising, unforgettable voice.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Larry H

    3.5 stars here. "It's often said that knowing who you are, or at the very least possessing a sneaking suspicion of such early in life, is a blessing. The people who share this sentiment need to write it on a piece of paper, ball it up, and then proceed to pour barbecue sauce all over it as they eat it. Early self-awareness is a blessing only if who you are comes with a support system and an education. If you don't have those, it's easy to find yourself feeling stuck and sullen. I learned a certai 3.5 stars here. "It's often said that knowing who you are, or at the very least possessing a sneaking suspicion of such early in life, is a blessing. The people who share this sentiment need to write it on a piece of paper, ball it up, and then proceed to pour barbecue sauce all over it as they eat it. Early self-awareness is a blessing only if who you are comes with a support system and an education. If you don't have those, it's easy to find yourself feeling stuck and sullen. I learned a certain part of my identity very early, but it was met with a near-instant confirmation of how unwelcome that part of my identity was to those surrounding me." At turns poignant, sharply insightful, and utterly hilarious, I Can't Date Jesus is Michael Arceneaux's collection of essays about what it's like to be a young black man growing up knowing you're gay but trying to do everything to hide it from your ultra-religious mother, your homophobic father, and a society that embraces masculinity and toughness. It's a book about self-acceptance, self-worth, and the need to live your life on your own terms, no matter what others may think or expect. Arceneaux approaches each aspect of his life with humor and sensitivity, and a healthy dose of self-deprecation. From being recruited for the priesthood at a time when he wasn't willing to accept who he was to numerous attempts to date (or even just hook up), from coming out to friends, family, and his mother, to his struggles with self-esteem (especially his hair), he doesn't play it all for laughs, but he's not afraid to tell it like it is—even his encounters which left him attacked by fire ants and maybe even fleas. "The pattern that required my real attention was my turning to sexually confused men for sexual exploration. It was like my turning to someone who can't figure out 'there,' 'they're,' and 'their' to edit your essay." The book delves deeper than simply exploring a man's journey to find himself and his place in the world. It's also a look at our current political situation, as well as a paean to his ultimate savior, Beyoncé. With each essay he makes you laugh, but he also makes you feel and he makes you think about things a little bit differently than you might have when you started reading. There were times when this book absolutely clicked for me, times when I thought, "Yep, that happened to me," or felt the same embarrassment or emotions that Arceneaux recounted. At other times I couldn't quite identify, since while I faced my share of bullying and disapproval related to my sexuality when I was growing up and moving into adulthood, those feelings weren't also couched in the expectations of an entire race or the devotion of religion. Arceneaux's voice is so vivid in this book; it almost felt like he was reading the essays to me at times. (I'd imagine if he reads his own audiobook it would be quite fun to listen to.) While he has faced many challenges in his life, in part, they made him the insightful, emotionally astute, and funny-as-hell person he is today, and I'm thankful he was willing to share his story with us. See all of my reviews at itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com, or check out my list of the best books I read in 2017 at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2018/01/the-best-books-i-read-in-2017.html.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Jennifer

    I Can't Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I've Put My Faith in Beyoncé is a collection of essays written by Michael Arceneaux. Although Arceneaux is a seasoned writer, this is his first published book and it is filled with life experiences related to family, race, sexuality, religion, politics, culture, LGBTQ community...and yes, even Beyoncé. From childhood to adulthood, it's there. Honest, funny, sensitive, heartbreaking, perspective-altering, and unapologetically in your I Can't Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I've Put My Faith in Beyoncé is a collection of essays written by Michael Arceneaux. Although Arceneaux is a seasoned writer, this is his first published book and it is filled with life experiences related to family, race, sexuality, religion, politics, culture, LGBTQ community...and yes, even Beyoncé. From childhood to adulthood, it's there. Honest, funny, sensitive, heartbreaking, perspective-altering, and unapologetically in your face. I did say funny, right? It's worth mentioning again. His humor generously takes the edge off all the emotional scarring he has endured. Arceneaux shares that it wasn't easy growing up as Black and gay with no support system, and having his very identity translated into damaging messages that had to be unlearned. Where does Beyoncé come in? Well, being a Houston, Texas native herself, and an individual who stands firm in who she is regardless of any opposition, Arceneaux has gained strength from her strength. We all have that one person who has had great impact on our lives (whether they know it or not) and Beyoncé is his. After reading the essay he devoted to her, I can completely understand why. With fifteen essays (plus an engaging introduction and epilogue), Arceneaux covers a variety of topics that will surely provide readers with validation, hope, and a sense of community. This was my first experience with Michael Arceneaux's writing but it certainly won't be my last. Talent, perspective, and smiles. It's a winner! Access to an advance reader's copy (ARC) of I Can't Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I've Put My Faith in Beyoncé was provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Author: Michael Arceneaux Publisher: Atria Books/37 INK Genres: Entertainment, LGBTQ Nonfiction Pub Date: July 24, 2018

  4. 4 out of 5

    Erin

    Contender for fave memoir title of 2018 Although not familiar with the work of Michael Arceneaux, I was intrigued to explore this collection of memoir essays. Even though this book didn't have me rolling on the floor with belly laughs, I enjoyed the feel of the book. As if, Michael Arceneaux, was sitting across from me in a cafe and pouring out his perspectives on the Catholic faith, his struggles with coming out to family and friends, thoughts on dating/marriage, American politics, and his lov Contender for fave memoir title of 2018 Although not familiar with the work of Michael Arceneaux, I was intrigued to explore this collection of memoir essays. Even though this book didn't have me rolling on the floor with belly laughs, I enjoyed the feel of the book. As if, Michael Arceneaux, was sitting across from me in a cafe and pouring out his perspectives on the Catholic faith, his struggles with coming out to family and friends, thoughts on dating/marriage, American politics, and his love for Beyonce. But I guess if we were really having coffee I would probably be shushing him to stop talking about his blowjobs. Book will be published in July 2018. Thanks to NetGalley for an advanced ebook in exchange for an honest review.

  5. 5 out of 5

    Taryn Pierson

    Michael Arceneaux was raised Catholic, and he has spent much of his life trying to reconcile his identity as a gay man with the faith of his childhood. He’s also an incisive cultural commentator when it comes to issues of race and class. This is a person who thinks deeply, who has analyzed his life and in this book offers up some of the conclusions he’s drawn and the steps he’s still taking to understand himself and his family. I love collections like this--personal essays that make you laugh an Michael Arceneaux was raised Catholic, and he has spent much of his life trying to reconcile his identity as a gay man with the faith of his childhood. He’s also an incisive cultural commentator when it comes to issues of race and class. This is a person who thinks deeply, who has analyzed his life and in this book offers up some of the conclusions he’s drawn and the steps he’s still taking to understand himself and his family. I love collections like this--personal essays that make you laugh and make you think, sometimes on the same page. And audio is the way to go, no question. Hearing Arceneaux’s words in his own voice is a special experience.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Mara

    4/4.5 stars- The perspective of this memoir is one that I think is much needed and I would love to see more of: what does it look like to reckon with people and institutions that on some level don't want you, even when you have lingering love or affection from them? Michael Arceneaux grapples with these questions very thoughtfully on many levels: as a "recovering Catholic," as a gay child of a religious mother, as an adult child of an alcoholic and abusive father, as a black gay man in a white d 4/4.5 stars- The perspective of this memoir is one that I think is much needed and I would love to see more of: what does it look like to reckon with people and institutions that on some level don't want you, even when you have lingering love or affection from them? Michael Arceneaux grapples with these questions very thoughtfully on many levels: as a "recovering Catholic," as a gay child of a religious mother, as an adult child of an alcoholic and abusive father, as a black gay man in a white dominated gay culture, etc. etc. I found this to be very moving, and I admire how he unfolded the story, adding layers and nuances as each chapter progressed. This book is definitely funny at times, but I would say that is not the overall tone of the book. If that is your expectation, I think you would be disappointed or confused, so I wanted to clarify that despite the comedic tone of the title itself (which is great, btw), this is not a humorous memoir or an ironic take on pop culture. Rather, there are funny moments and observations about pop culture that are incorporated into the larger personal story he is telling. All told, I really enjoyed this, particularly the religious aspects, and am excited to read more from him in the future. Also, big cosign on a wholesale rejection of Beytheism. Life is too short.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Kayla Brunson

    Thank you Atria Books for providing me with a copy for an honest review. I haven’t read anything by Michael Arceneaux before, but when I heard he was from Houston like me and saw the title I knew I wanted to read it. This was compared toYou Can't Touch My Hair: And Other Things I Still Have to Explain and I loved that book last year. This guy is hilarious as hell and he kept me laughing while reading. The style of the book feels as if we are having dinner and he’s telling me about his life. It’s v Thank you Atria Books for providing me with a copy for an honest review. I haven’t read anything by Michael Arceneaux before, but when I heard he was from Houston like me and saw the title I knew I wanted to read it. This was compared toYou Can't Touch My Hair: And Other Things I Still Have to Explain and I loved that book last year. This guy is hilarious as hell and he kept me laughing while reading. The style of the book feels as if we are having dinner and he’s telling me about his life. It’s very laid back but don’t think that he’s not hitting you with some hard-hitting truths about the world. I learned a lot from reading about the obstacles he had to face and go through as a gay black man. We also get topics from race, religion, and his love for Beyonce. I love his candor and his sense of humor: “You want to learn how to give up on humanity? Ride the bus in L.A.” “Are you a homosexual?” “Yes, as long as women still come with vaginas.” My favorite part of the book was all of the Houston references. People outside of Houston might not understand them, but I loved seeing my city in a book. I did have to knock some stars off because it a little heavy in unnecessary information and also very heavy on sexual topics. That doesn’t bother me in the slightest but I know that some people might not enjoy it. All in all, this book was entertaining as it was informational and I can’t wait to read more from him. **Quotes are from an ARC and are subject to change upon publication. Follow Books and Blends on: Blog | Instagram | Twitter

  8. 4 out of 5

    Valerie

    “Some parts of my life are sad, but I am not a sad spirit.” So reads a line from the epilogue to I Can’t Date Jesus, a touching, honest, and highly entertaining collection of reflections from Michael Arceneaux, one of my favorite culture writers. I completed this book quite quickly as I was devouring it similarly to the way I often do writings by Arceneaux: with many an internal head nod, several audible chuckles, and constant reminders that despite being my opposite in so many ways, Michael Arc “Some parts of my life are sad, but I am not a sad spirit.” So reads a line from the epilogue to I Can’t Date Jesus, a touching, honest, and highly entertaining collection of reflections from Michael Arceneaux, one of my favorite culture writers. I completed this book quite quickly as I was devouring it similarly to the way I often do writings by Arceneaux: with many an internal head nod, several audible chuckles, and constant reminders that despite being my opposite in so many ways, Michael Arceneaux writes in a manner that feels familiar and engaging all the same. As stated in many reviews and in the interviews I have seen concerning it, this book relays the story that isn’t shared often enough but surely deserves its rightful place in the minds of many. In relaying his story, one full of heartbreaking and hilarious moments alike, Arceneaux is able to elevate his voice and thus offer space for others who feel similarly, share parallel experiences, are starved for this needed perspective, or a combination of all three. Despite being fully intrigued by the story being told, I did experience some moments where I wish the details allotted were reserved for the points I felt more compelling as a reader. Given this is something that can likely be attributed to personal preference, it’s surely not a detail to dissuade a potential reader from picking this up. At its core, this collection offers insight into the experiences that yielded an incredibly gifted writer and offered a layer of humanity and additional honesty I didn’t know I needed to someone I have long supported by way of many a retweet, click, or share. Definitely one I recommend!

  9. 5 out of 5

    Bri (girlwithabookblog.com)

    I really thought I was going to go through all of 2018 only reading books written by women, but Michael Arcenaux's debut I Can't Date Jesus sounded too intriguing to ignore. Despite not reading any of Arceneaux's work before, I really enjoyed reading his memoir essays. He's a big shot in the journalism world, particularly known for writing from the gay and black POV, but you don't need to know his previous work to dive into this! Arceneaux brilliantly writes about the tensions between his family I really thought I was going to go through all of 2018 only reading books written by women, but Michael Arcenaux's debut I Can't Date Jesus sounded too intriguing to ignore. Despite not reading any of Arceneaux's work before, I really enjoyed reading his memoir essays. He's a big shot in the journalism world, particularly known for writing from the gay and black POV, but you don't need to know his previous work to dive into this! Arceneaux brilliantly writes about the tensions between his family, religion, sexuality, professional goals, Beyoncé, and beyond. I dug all of the Texas references (some of my favorites were deep cuts that people outside of Texas might not understand... but people read that kind of stuff all of the time about NYC, so don't let that dissuade you) and enjoyed reading about his reflections upon how his experiences, both during youth and more recently, have greatly shaped the man Arceneaux is today. Disclaimer: I was provided with a digital copy of this book for free from Atria Books via NetGalley. All opinions expressed in the review are my own and have not been influenced by Atria Books or NetGalley. For more reviews, check out www.girlwithabookblog.com!

  10. 5 out of 5

    Kevin

    Michael Arceneaux's inspiring and delightful debut collection of autobiographical essays about growing up black and gay in Texas is alternately hilarious and touching. "This book is about unlearning every damaging thing I've seen and heard about my identity and allowing myself the space to figure out who I am and what that means on my terms," writes Arceneaux. Growing up in a home with a rage-prone father and religious mother, he kept his sexuality under wraps. Calling himself a recovering Catho Michael Arceneaux's inspiring and delightful debut collection of autobiographical essays about growing up black and gay in Texas is alternately hilarious and touching. "This book is about unlearning every damaging thing I've seen and heard about my identity and allowing myself the space to figure out who I am and what that means on my terms," writes Arceneaux. Growing up in a home with a rage-prone father and religious mother, he kept his sexuality under wraps. Calling himself a recovering Catholic, he still contends, "Catholic guilt never leaves you, and follows you everywhere; it's the herpes of your conscience." Arceneaux details his fumbling sexual encounters, bad dates and his painful coming out to his mother: "As a gay man, you already have so many people against you," he writes. "Your family--especially your mother--is supposed to be in your corner as you battle these people, not throwing sucker punches with them." He finds solace and a source of strength in favorite musical divas Madonna, Janet Jackson and his goddess Beyoncé. One fascinating chapter covers his mixed feelings about gay people marrying. He's happy for the progress but doesn't see it in his future, writing, "The failure to learn how to love someone properly is a trait that has since been passed down to me." While I CAN'T DATE JESUS is filled with razor-sharp observations and sly and snarky one-liners, the book's most impressive attribute is Arceneaux's bravery and skill at tackling complex issues with humanity, eloquence and compassion. This book is a winner.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Semora Renee

    This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. This book was very well-written. Michael articulated his points well, and the parts about family, and relationships are universal. He makes me wish I visited Texas. And feeling “seen” is something I believe everyone can relate to. And the idea of identity and wholeness separate from whiteness is a subject that I didn’t even know how to say I wanted to read about it. Overall, very very engaging.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Lauren Murray

    2.5/5 I think there's a great message here, but its a bit raunchy for what I was expecting to read. I appreciate Arceneaux's storytelling (such a compelling title), but not a huge fan of his voice as an author.

  13. 4 out of 5

    Alix

    It took me a while to enjoy the style of writing, but the stories are compelling and the themes throughout are important.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Erik

    In Michael Arceneaux's debut book "I Can't Date Jesus," he tackles topics ranging from dating to sex to family, race, and religion. In each instance, his conversations on these topics follow lines of thinking that are relevant to contemporary readers - queer and straight alike - and he, in many cases, make important contributions to queer writing on these topics. However, in almost every essay in this collection, Arceneaux's own writing style gets in his way. Some have classified his writing as " In Michael Arceneaux's debut book "I Can't Date Jesus," he tackles topics ranging from dating to sex to family, race, and religion. In each instance, his conversations on these topics follow lines of thinking that are relevant to contemporary readers - queer and straight alike - and he, in many cases, make important contributions to queer writing on these topics. However, in almost every essay in this collection, Arceneaux's own writing style gets in his way. Some have classified his writing as "conversational" and in many cases this is certainly true. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a conversational tone in writing. The problem with Arecenaux's writing in this collection is not this but rather an overwhelming and consistent misuse of metaphor and simile. On almost every page of this book there is at least one metaphor that stretches for 2 or more lines, dragging sentences through the mud and making what the author is trying to say ultimately unclear. His use of metaphor seems to reflect an ongoing attempt at humor, but the problem is that these metaphors, because they are so long, make reading the book much more laborious than it ought be. Additionally, Arceneaux's writing in this collection is populated with numerous rabbit trails. What I mean by this is that he has a tendency to, while telling a story, insert a short sentence of relevance to the story, and then feel the need to expand on the background behind this short sentence by going on a multi-paragraph tangent. While many of these tangents are interesting, they distract from the central storyline and make following this storyline incredibly difficult. And, in a few cases, these tangents, again, seem meant to add humor to the book but also feel incredibly out of place. These issues added to some other problematic comments that pepper this book, made reading it a challenge. And, by the end of the book, this was a disappointment because many of the stories in this book are deep, interesting, and thoughtful. In particular, Arceneaux's recounting of his relationship to his father was powerful and meaningful, and interestingly, didn't have the literary problems many of the other essays had. His essays on the barbershop and his mother were, additionally, moving and powerful. At the end of the day, approach this book with trepidation, for the power held in some, but not all, of the stories.

  15. 4 out of 5

    b talbot

    i thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and it got better as it progressed. i found his style and voice to be very truthful, funny, engaging, and very personal. my favourite essays were "my lord and gyrator," "the pinkprint," "ill dial that number," and "i cant date jesus." to me, these were the best examples of arceneaux's writing talent and ability to express how culture, family, race, and sexuality all contribute to who he is and how he came to define himself. and even though he was not making t i thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and it got better as it progressed. i found his style and voice to be very truthful, funny, engaging, and very personal. my favourite essays were "my lord and gyrator," "the pinkprint," "ill dial that number," and "i cant date jesus." to me, these were the best examples of arceneaux's writing talent and ability to express how culture, family, race, and sexuality all contribute to who he is and how he came to define himself. and even though he was not making this argument and he may even not like my interpretation of his essay in this way, i found "my lord and gyrator" a genuine and compelling counter-approach to the very overdone white, liberal and whiny and guilt-ridden (again, my words) arguments about cultural appropriation. growing up, i had a similar experience seeing the gay characters in "in living color" and madonna's "vogue" video. outside of this very personal interpretation, i really enjoyed how he connected pop culture (janet jackson, tlc, beyoncé) to outlets of identity for people who did not have other means. great collection. i will definitely have to look for his work in media outlets and i look forward to reading his next collection.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Steven Voorhees

    I recently listened to Michael Arceneaux's interview with Terry Gross on NPR's "Fresh Air." I caught the conversation in its middle (I think), and there Arceneaux opined his homosexuality was TOLERATED rather than ACCEPTED by his family. I immediately identified with both his experience and action verbs. This is but one nugget in his memoir, a by-turns sober, humorous and unsettling treatise on his often turbulent life. A son of Houston and a graduate of Howard, Arceneaux has withstood maladies, I recently listened to Michael Arceneaux's interview with Terry Gross on NPR's "Fresh Air." I caught the conversation in its middle (I think), and there Arceneaux opined his homosexuality was TOLERATED rather than ACCEPTED by his family. I immediately identified with both his experience and action verbs. This is but one nugget in his memoir, a by-turns sober, humorous and unsettling treatise on his often turbulent life. A son of Houston and a graduate of Howard, Arceneaux has withstood maladies, malevolence and various forms of BS, all while comforted by Beyoncé. While I'm not really into Beyoncé, I found myself relating to many parts of Arceneaux's story and more than once I looked up to ponder a sentence, a memory or a vulgarity (which there are aplenty of in I CAN'T DATE). Within pyrotechnical prose, Arceneaux authentically describes what life is like for a Gay Man of Color in all of its joys. And jolts.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Sahitya

    Though I’ve never read any of the author’s previous work, I still wanted to try reading this and it was a very entertaining read. Michael’s style is very conversational, like he is just talking to us about all his feelings. His issues about his father’s abuse, his very religious mother, his paranoia about intimacy - all heavy topics are written in a very humorous way. I was obviously expecting a little more political commentary since Michael is very opinionated, but the book concentrates more on Though I’ve never read any of the author’s previous work, I still wanted to try reading this and it was a very entertaining read. Michael’s style is very conversational, like he is just talking to us about all his feelings. His issues about his father’s abuse, his very religious mother, his paranoia about intimacy - all heavy topics are written in a very humorous way. I was obviously expecting a little more political commentary since Michael is very opinionated, but the book concentrates more on his many unsuccessful dating attempts quite graphically. This book definitely wouldn’t have worked for me if not for his quick wit and self-deprecating nature while discussing the most impactful situations in his life. I would definitely recommend it.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Tamara

    Puttin' It Dine For The 713 Never would I thought I'd see a reference to Big Moe's "Barre Baby" in a major book publication and I almost shed a tear when I read it. As a proud Houstonian, all the references to this beloved city warmed my heart. Also, as a Beyoncé fan since I first saw Destiny's Child on the cover of the Houston Chronicle's Zest magazine back in 1998, I completely understand the devotion to her. These essays made me laugh, cry, smile, and think. Michael is a wonderful writer who wr Puttin' It Dine For The 713 Never would I thought I'd see a reference to Big Moe's "Barre Baby" in a major book publication and I almost shed a tear when I read it. As a proud Houstonian, all the references to this beloved city warmed my heart. Also, as a Beyoncé fan since I first saw Destiny's Child on the cover of the Houston Chronicle's Zest magazine back in 1998, I completely understand the devotion to her. These essays made me laugh, cry, smile, and think. Michael is a wonderful writer who writes in a way that embraces every part of himself. It was hard to put the book down. I've read many memoirs and books by essayists, and "I Can't Date Jesus" is one of the best.

  19. 5 out of 5

    M

    Michael Arceneaux's impressive repertoire includes writing for The Guardian, New York magazine, Essence, Rolling Stone, Teen Vogue, BuzzFeed, The Washington Post and The New York Times. Here he writes a funny and touching memoir about homophobia, family acceptance, his intolerant Christian upbringing, dating in the modern age, and navigating the world lead by a horrifying "president - aka "Sweet Potato Saddam". His anecdote about Mary J. Blige at the end of the book was truly touching. My only cr Michael Arceneaux's impressive repertoire includes writing for The Guardian, New York magazine, Essence, Rolling Stone, Teen Vogue, BuzzFeed, The Washington Post and The New York Times. Here he writes a funny and touching memoir about homophobia, family acceptance, his intolerant Christian upbringing, dating in the modern age, and navigating the world lead by a horrifying "president - aka "Sweet Potato Saddam". His anecdote about Mary J. Blige at the end of the book was truly touching. My only criticism about this book was that it was too short, and probably only scratched the surface of Michael's life. I look forward to reading more from him!

  20. 5 out of 5

    Remi

    I am so happy for this author's success. I've followed him on social media for a few years, laughing and agreeing with his insights into pop culture, social issues and politics. Seeing his journey as writer and critic to now a book author is inspiring and wonderful. I laughed and frowned and nodded and laughed some more reading about Arceneaux's life, his thoughts on socio-political issues and his misadventures. I wish him nothing but happiness and success and I look forward to more of writing, I am so happy for this author's success. I've followed him on social media for a few years, laughing and agreeing with his insights into pop culture, social issues and politics. Seeing his journey as writer and critic to now a book author is inspiring and wonderful. I laughed and frowned and nodded and laughed some more reading about Arceneaux's life, his thoughts on socio-political issues and his misadventures. I wish him nothing but happiness and success and I look forward to more of writing, online and on paper.

  21. 5 out of 5

    (a)lyss(a)

    "Is it not an exercise in futility to place your faith in a belief system that doesn't completely believe in you?" This is a great and engaging read. Michael Arceneaux is funny, genuine, and open in this memoir about his experiences and growing up and how his faith has changed over time. It's full of personal stories and insights about race and sex and family that is raw and absolutely worth the read.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Kari

    Probably a 3.5 for me. I thought it settled in to his voice after the first two chapters and I realized I’d never read anything from his perspective - gay black man from Texas raised as a Catholic. There’s a lot of talk about dating and while that was interesting I think I enjoyed many of the other parts more. Overall, funny and hopeful.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Al

    Excellent, timely read. This is the first time I've read Arceneaux and I was delighted by his depth, honesty and humor. He gave insight into a world I knew nothing about and offered further insight into worlds to which I new very little, all the while seeming to be very true to himself. This is a highly worthwhile read for anyone looking to pull their heads out of the sand.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Kayla

    I loved this book so much! Michael told his story in an unapologetic and truthful way. Reading his book was like talking to an old friend or someone that I can see myself being friends with. I love his love for the Queen Bey cause it's similar to my own. This is definitely one of my favorite books that I've read this year.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Leah Weiser

    Rounding up a bit, but this was interesting! I honestly thought it was going to be a book of pop culture essays combined with growing up essays but really was a true coming of age journey, and from a perspective we don't get to hear from very often.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Tara

    I really liked this. A lot. Arceneaux's honesty and reality is beautiful and though I have not experienced anywhere close to the same life he has, I found myself identifying with most of what he had to say about the church, the southwest, Beyonce, politics, and dating.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Lisa Elizabeth

    This is a funny, honest and poignant memoir which I thoroughly enjoyed reading. The author’s perspective is one I’m not familiar with, so I found this book incredibly informative and eye-opening.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Alison

    Loved this book! So poignant and funny. I wanted my friend to read half a page (about Beytheists) and she didn’t want to give it back. It is definitely worth your time.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Crystal

    2.5 stars

  30. 5 out of 5

    Crystal

    Honest, insightful, and absolutely hilarious

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